8 Signs That Your Divorce Needs New Mediated Terms
Uncontested Divorce Mediation
Posted February 3, 2021
During Denver divorce mediation, we try to write up a divorce agreement that will work for both parties indefinitely. Ideally, divorce finalizes an emotional and logistical separation of two lives. The terms you set up at that moment depended on the income, potential, and lifestyle you had at the time. But times change, and so do people and our circumstances. The terms of your divorce agreement may be legally binding, but they’re also not set in stone.
If your divorce is built on circumstances that are no longer relevant, then it can’t help you or your ex live healthy lives separate from each other. Sometimes, a divorce must be updated because one ex-spouse is acting poorly but often, it’s just that the situation has changed. The two people once supported or, at least, returned back-to-normal by the divorce agreement may suddenly be hemmed in by it.
Anyone considering a divorce renegotiation can also consider Denver divorce mediation. With a mediator, you have the best chance of making new divorce terms that will be supportive, useful, and ideally ignorable for further decades into the future. Let’s dive into the leasing reasons to renegotiate your Denver divorce mediation agreement terms.
1) Your Schedules No Longer Match Divorce Terms
Divorces are often built around a schedule, especially if child custody is involved. The days of the week and keeping track of weekends is important for parenting so that you stay on schedule with your kids. But again, lifestyles and schedules change You may pick up a Wednesday night meeting. Your ex may start going out on Friday nights without making plans. Your kids may join or leave any number of extracurricular activities that drastically change their schedules.
When this happens, a weekday-based divorce schedule simply may not work. You may need to rearrange the schedule for new demands or come up with a better method to meet the old schedule. We strongly advise refusing your Denver divorce mediation agreement to best reflect
2) Significant Changes in Income Up or Down
Another very serious consideration is income. COVID and the related market shake-ups left a lot of people in a new role professionally – for many that became temporary unemployment. New remote jobs may be on a different pay grade and are likely with new employers. Both exes in this scenario have a high potential for recent financial disruptions. If there is any money moving between you in the form of alimony, palimony, or child custody payments, then these must be rethought. It’s not reasonable to ask too much from someone who has lost their job or to give to a parent who is now the co-parenting bread-winner.
3) Ex Becomes Hostile About Routine Tasks
The best reasons to renegotiate a divorce are logistical, but the worst reasons are emotional. Sometimes, an ex will create trouble and the terms of your Denver divorce mediation agreement are not respected. A divorce is a binding contract separation that allows two people to build their lives separately after attempting marriage. However, if your ex becomes intractible about simple things like sharing custody, sending money, or basic communication then it may be time to draw up a new legally binding document that also defines some recourse on your part.
4) Custody Becomes a Battle Every Time
Some exes turn custody into a never-ending battle to get and keep the children. There have been many instances over the years of delayed pickup to hiding the children with relatives. COVID has added even more stress on parents afraid to lose access to their children. Don’t be afraid if your ex-spouse is exhibiting signs of unstable custody battling. Get in touch with your Denver divorce mediator, and with the police if necessary, to draw up a more binding divorce contract.
5) Your Ex is Marrying Someone New
In terms of alimony, palimony, and some forms of child support, the ex’s marital status may apply For example, conditional alimony usually stops when the paid spouse marries or otherwise forms a household bond with a new partner. As conditions change, it’s important that your divorce contract and the terms being adhered to match the conditions of today’s reality. When your ex is remarrying or – in some cases – cho-habitating with a romantic part ner then they are no longer considered the financial responsibility of an ex spouse.
6) Significant Changes is Childcare Need or Availability
Recent changes in schooling have resulted in understandable rescent chances in childcare – both need and availability. Kids are home more often with online and e-learning while parents work from home if they can. Younger kids will need significantly more babysitting while living with busy parent which can increase total childcare costs. Older kids are more likely to adapt to the situation and help you talk about fitting custody into their busy extracurricular hobbies.
7) The Children Have Strong Preference
If your divorce is a few years behind you, then your kids have grown up some over that time. Children who were too young to have a say then may have a strong opinion. Teens may choose a parent to live with, or organized children may suggest a better system than the one you’re using. It’s worth listening to your kids and renegotiating terms with a mediator is the right place to let your kids have a temporary seat at the table.
8) Terms No Longer Apply to Your Situation
Overall, it’s important to keep an eye on your Denver divorce mediation agreement and how it applies to the real life you are living as a post-divorce family. Whether you are solo or are now a co-parent, whether your ex is cooperative or problematic, you want to change terms when your lifestyle and circumstances change. With the help of a mediator, you can rebuild new supportive terms that help everyone involved. You and your ex can sleep easier knowing your divorce is fair and up-to-date.
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