What You Should Ask For During A Chicago Divorce Meditation
Uncontested Divorce Mediation
Posted July 13, 2018
When you are going through the divorce mediation process in Chicago, there will be a lot to consider. At the same time, there will also be lots of things that you can ask to be resolved or solved throughout your divorce mediation as well.
To get the most of out of your divorce mediation process in Chicago, it will be important that you are willing to put the time and energy into the process that it requires in order to reap the most benefits possible from having a divorce mediator walk you through your divorce. Putting the time and effort that is required for the process now will help you and your spouse both have better lives that you can both live with after the divorce process is complete and finalized.
What Documents Will the Chicago Divorce Mediator Ask Me To Provide?
When you are beginning the divorce mediation process in Chicago, the mediator will generally ask you to provide the following information and paperwork including information related to the following:
- Personal/autobiographical information on you and your spouse (i.e. names, addresses, contact information, addresses, marriage date, employment history, & annual gross income for each spouse)
- Name and birthdate of each child you have together
- Current balance statements to all bank accounts in both of your names (shared or separate)
- All information on finances for your children (i.e. 529 plans, CDs, or other custodial savings plans you have money invested in)
- Any stocks, investments, bonds, etc. you have as a couple
- All vehicles owned between the couple along with makes, models, year, and mileage of the cars you drive
- Current statements from both parties retirement savings accounts (i.e. 401(k)s, 403(b)s, 457's Thrifty Savings Plans, Roth IRA's, SFP IRA's, etc.) and all should reflect current market value or close to it as possible
- Statements including your employee benefits and incentives
- Current market value appraisals of all property owned between the couples
- Statements of all debts owed between the couple
- Current balances for all credit cards owned
- Information on any civil suits pending with any parties involved in the mediation process
- Copies of current pay stubs and income, as well as W2s and any private income, made by either spouse
Gathering this documentation is essential to giving the mediator a full picture of your marriage and situation so that they can handle the divorce case fairly as possible for all parties involved. Collecting this information is also the most cumbersome part of the mediation process, but it's vital to giving the Chicago divorce mediator proper information so they can help you both reach a settlement that works for everyone.
What Should I Expect Of The Chicago Divorce Mediator Once Information Is Provided?
Once you provide the aforementioned information and any other information that is requested by the mediator, you will be prepared to begin the divorce mediation process in Chicago. When you are going through the mediation process, you will want to ensure that you get all of the information from the mediator that you possibly can to help you come to a satisfactory conclusion that meets both you and your spouse's needs.
The following are the stages of the divorce mediation process as set forth by Split Simple. Once you decide to use one of our Chicago divorce mediator to assist you with your divorce, this is what you can expect from the initial consultation to your finalized divorce:
- Consultation and Scheduling: A free phone consultation with your divorce mediator and each spouse will determine the fixed pricing plan that is right for your divorce. You will then schedule your first mediation appointment at a time and location in Chicago that works best for you.
- Mediation Preparation: Before the first session, your Chicago divorce mediator will provide you with a checklist outlining your mediation topics as well as relevant documents. We will ask you to complete a financial questionnaire, and your mediator will use this information to prepare a preliminary analysis of your estate.
- Mediation Sessions: Two, one hour mediation sessions facilitated by your divorce attorney mediator will guide you through the allocation of your assets and debts, (where applicable) parenting plans, estimated post divorce after tax cash flow and much more.
- Mediation Replay: Following each session with your divorce mediator, you will receive a copy of your proposed asset and debt allocation as well as a summary of the topics discussed and tentative agreements reached during mediation.
- Review: Your mediator will prepare a comprehensive “Separation Agreement” and (where applicable) “Parenting Plan” as well as all relevant court documents. You will review all documents with your divorce mediator so you understand what you are signing, before you sign it.
- Your Guarantee: You will leave the final document review session with all the necessary documentation to finalize your divorce. Once signed, the documents can be submitted to the courts, and you will also be provided with Split SImple’s “guaranteed Court Acceptance”, meaning if the Judge doesn’t immediately accept your documents, there are no additional charges in order to achieve court approval.
What Are Some Common Concerns With Mediation?
There are many common concerns couples face when entering the divorce mediation process in Chicago. While many people fear the mediation process, in the end, the process is there to help you both move forward in amicable of a way as possible. Some of the following are concerns and how a divorce mediator can help you move forward through the divorce process:
- My Spouse Is Very Powerful & Will Overpower Me In This Process: The mediator's job is to let neither party overpower the other party. They give time to both parties to ensure that you and your spouse are heard out and completely able to express your opinions, thoughts, needs, and desires to each other to help the process move forward smoothly. Allow the Chicago divorce mediator to intervene and don't let your spouse overpower you under any circumstance. Both parties are equal in this process, so stand up for yourself and your rights to be heard as well.
- Attorneys Can Be Involved, Too: There is no substitution for seeking an attorney's advice throughout the divorce mediation process. You should each have independent lawyers that can represent your case and side in the divorce settlement.
- My Case Is Too Complex For Mediation Services: You may feel that your case is too complex for a mediator to handle, but that is far from the truth. No case is too complex for mediation to be had. Considering that almost 40-50% of marriages in the US end in divorce, your case has likely been heard before and will be heard again. Allow the divorce mediators to handle the case in the way they know how and let it be resolved to the best interest of everyone involved.
- We Will Never Agree On All Issues: The point of a mediator is to seek a compromise between both parties to come to a conclusion everyone can live with. The divorce mediator will help you come to that conclusion so everyone can live with the results of the separation. Remember, you may not like every single conclusion that is agreed to, but sometimes you will have to give some to take other things. Remember what is most important to you and stand up for that, allow other things to slide. In the end, both sides must compromise for this to work out.
These are a few things to keep in mind when navigating the divorce mediation process in Chicago. Considering how many divorces happen in the US each year, your case has been seen before and will likely be seen again.
Final Advice For Your Divorce Mediation in Chicago:
Remember, the ultimate goal of a divorce mediation is to come to agreeable terms with your spouse as to how things will be moving forward after your divorce. It will be vital that you give up some things to get other things that are the most important to you. Prioritize what matters to you both versus each individual and reach a conclusion that satisfies both parties as much as possible.
Allow the mediator to do their job in helping resolve the conflicts in the process to allow everyone to move forward in the best situation possible. That is the point of mediation and the job of the person intervening in your case. To make it work as best it can you will both have to be open, mature, and express yourselves as well as you can to allow your Chicago divorce mediator to help you both resolve your case as best you can while you both move forward.
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