Positive Effects of Divorce | Denver Divorce Attorneys
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Posted August 10, 2022
When people hear the word divorce, they often think negative thoughts. For those who are going through a divorce (or have been through one), it may feel like a failure. They had a planned future and nothing is going to end up how they thought. Many feel like failures, since their marriages didn’t work out.
For those who have not been through a divorce, they may also think of a divorce as a failure. They may not understand how someone could choose to get divorced, no matter how bad the marriage is. They may think that divorce isn’t an option, at least not for them.
That being said, there are some positives when it comes to Denver divorce mediation. Here are some of the positive effects that you may see (even if it takes you awhile to notice them).
There Is Less Tension
When marriages are in trouble, there is often a lot of tension in the air. Both parties feel wound up when they are with the other. This can be stressful for both parties. That being said, it can also be difficult for the children. Even young children can feel the tension in the air. Teenagers, though they may spend most of their time in their bedrooms, can also feel it.
Your Children Will Be Happier
Tension in a home can be hard on children. Some children may misbehave. Your younger children may start fighting amongst themselves. Older children may get in fights at school. They may struggle in school, due to the stress of the household. Their grades may drop significantly.
Children of all ages may quit listening to you, and you may have a problem on your hand. Younger children may become disrespectful and break things. They may be hard to control, due to the craziness of their life. Older children may find themselves in the wrong crowd. They may turn to drugs in order to deal with their feelings.
Build a Better Relationship With Your Children
Being a single parent may feel like the hardest thing that you ever did, but it might be the best thing to happen to your relationship with your children. Now that you don’t have to put your spouse’s feelings first, you can focus on your children. Together, you can work through your feelings and may find yourself bonding as you all heal. You may all be dealing with grief, sadness, and anger together. This can only bring you closer.
You also have more time with your children. You will be able to do the things that they want to do. If they enjoy painting, you may want to take some painting classes together. If they enjoy going to the park, make sure that you spend plenty of time at the park.
Both Parties May Find Themselves Healthier
Living with long-term stress can be hard on a person. Many people become overweight due to the stress. They don’t take good care of their body, feeding it right and making sure that they get enough exercise. Many struggle to sleep, and wake up feeling as exhausted as when they went to bed. Depression is quite common.
Long-term chronic stress can lead to premature aging, cancer, heart disease, and death. Often, once the stress is gone and things settle down, many people find the time to become healthier. They lose weight, sleep better, and find themselves a lot healthier than they were prior to the Denver divorce mediation.
Show Your Children How to be Happy
You are a role model for your children, so it is important that you are happy with what you are showing them. If you stay in an unhappy marriage, your children will see that it is alright to settle. Even if you are miserable, you are showing them that it is better to stay in a marriage than to find a better way to live. When you go through the Denver divorce mediation process, you are telling your children that it is fine to look for a way to be happy.
Learning Coping Skills Helps Build Confidence
Going through the Denver divorce mediation process is life changing. It takes a lot of guts to walk away and build a new life. Eventually, you will find yourself on the other side, happier and more confident. You got through this, and you can get through anything! It may take a few months (or even years), but you will be pleased with the results.
Do What You Want, When You Want!
Many people want freedom, when they get a divorced. They want to be able to choose what they want to do, such as go out to dinner with friends in the evening. You may also choose to drink another glass of wine at dinner, with no one telling you not to.
This is the prefect time to start some new hobbies that you have always wanted to try. You may take up painting or crafting. You may want to spend more time reading, instead of watching television shows that you weren’t interested in. You should use this time wisely and really discover yourself and who you want to be.
When you are unhappy in a marriage, that is no way to live. Though separating and going through the Denver divorce mediation process can be extremely scary, it will change your life for the better. Once you work through your emotions, you may find yourself happy to be living in a home that is not filled with tension. You may be able to focus on your own health and may be able to lose some weight, as well as sleep better. You may not be as depressed as you were.
Your children may also be happier. Many act out when they are living in a house filled with stress and tension. You may find yourself having a better relationship with your children, as you find a new normal. Your children may want to spend more time with you, which can only make your life better. You are also showing your children that it is fine to leave a marriage in order to be happy. You don’t want them to settle. You want them to be happy and have a good life.
Contact a Denver Divorce Mediation Attorney Today
Contact Split Simple today to speak with a divorce mediation attorney and begin the process of moving towards a less stressful, more joyful life with your family.
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